April 15, 2013

APRIL 12, 2013


After reading Myne’s post I knew, I had to get this out of my mind and system. I hope my posts aren’t monotonous.
Colleague: Thank you so much. Do have a wonderful weekend
Sykik: Thank you too, wish you same
Colleague: I guess I won’t be wrong to ask about oga and children
Sykik: no, you won’t
Colleague: you have a nice physique, I wish I was slimmer
Sykik: thank you. I am sure your husband loves you the way you are
Colleague: how many kids do you have?
Sykik: kids are not a function of your look, I am sure Oga likes you just the way you are
Colleague: no oh….he likes #lepa babes. He wants me to shed some weight
Sykik: …. (Feeling uncomfortable) it is well 
Colleague: so, I guess you have two kids right
Sykik: huh…..have a wonderful weekend
Colleague: boy and girl right, and you are this slim
Sykik:  yeah…good night
Now, I feel bad that I have deceived her into believing I have two kids. Why can’t people take the cue and mind their business…..can’t you read between the line.
Scene 2:
Colleague: Sykik…..you can’t add weight oh
Sykik: smiling….I love my #lepa levels abeg
Colleague: wait until you have children, then you will know the truth
Sykik:  abeg, free me….children or no children…I intend to maintain my stature
At first, it was “wait till you get married and someone starts oiling your engine”, now it is “wait till you have children”…
I don’t even know what I am fuming about, no….I know what I am fuming about
1.       After five years at the same level, promotion list is out and I am not on the list, after slaving so bad for this annoying institution… ………Psalm 75:6 – For promotion cometh neither from the east, nor from the west, nor from the south. It is God who judges: He brings one down, He exalts another
So maybe, I should just vex for God abi……

2.       I can feel Aunty Flo from a distance…... the witch, it can’t be worse than this. I just feel like crawling into a hole right now.
I have been holding my tears since Friday, maybe I should just let it out, I hate feeling sorry for myself and that’s just what the tears are all about.
Sykik, grow up……………..life happens.

#lepa is a Nigerian slang meaning slim

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36 comments:

  1. doll (retired blogger)April 15, 2013 at 4:21 PM

    people dont know how to mind their business and are so damn insensitive....

    I dont know if this helps, but just remind yourself that they are asking "from a good place" and soon you will be a mum

    Hugs

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    1. sykikApril 16, 2013 at 2:51 PM

      Thanks dear. I guess missing out on the promotion made me cranky already and then having to be boxed into answering a question I didn't want to just did it for me.

      Thank you for the hug..I feel loved

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  2. AnonymousApril 15, 2013 at 4:38 PM

    {{{loving HUGS}}}}}}.....sigh!
    no words sistah, no words...HUGGING YOU!

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    1. sykikApril 16, 2013 at 2:53 PM

      Aawwww......God bless you. Hugging you right back

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    2. UnknownApril 24, 2013 at 9:38 AM

      Simple Mee, what is up with you? It's been a while. Hope you are good.

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  3. BeautifulApril 15, 2013 at 8:49 PM

    Alagbara lolorun, ko ma si ohun ti ko lese - God is powerful, theres nothing He cannot do.

    I think you should cry...i cry over stuff, it reduces the anger i'm going through at that point in time :)

    As for me sha o, the presence of aunty flow does not cancel the presence of your baby, hope that makes sense?


    Stay strong.

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    1. sykikApril 16, 2013 at 2:57 PM

      Dear, thank you so much for the encouragement. It's just that Aunty Flo is a drama queen, she announces her presence with all fanfare and my faith wanes

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  4. MyneApril 16, 2013 at 1:37 AM

    I let the tears flow when it comes o, please allow yourself, it helps. Some women can do aproko pass. Your promotion is coming soon :)

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    1. sykikApril 16, 2013 at 2:59 PM

      Thanks...lemme go open the tear tap abi na well. :) I am a cry baby

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  5. BernieApril 16, 2013 at 9:08 AM

    Arms spread, Big hugs. Huge hugs dear. just hugs. Nothing more to add.

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    1. sykikApril 16, 2013 at 3:00 PM

      I feel so loved.. Thank you so much. I am blessed .

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  6. ToinliciousApril 16, 2013 at 5:12 PM

    I'm sending you a hug-so-tight-i-can't-breathe-cos-it's-smothering-but-i-love-it hugsss. Tears don't mean weakness. It is very very okay to cry. *grabs a box of tissue and ice cream*

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    1. JemimaApril 19, 2013 at 1:15 PM

      yep you got that right *ice cream*

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    2. sykikApril 19, 2013 at 5:44 PM

      My darling, I haven't cried sha, but let some tears drop and though I didn't do ice cream, I did justice to chocolates.

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  7. Apinke April 17, 2013 at 10:07 PM

    Sending you hugs.Just commented on Mynes post now about how people pry and make all sorts of comments.It is well.I think its okay to cry.I broke down on Monday at work too and cried all day like a baby.Till i got home and wept again and let it all out to my husband thats when i felt better.My dear it will soon be our time to rejoice.

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    1. sykikApril 19, 2013 at 5:44 PM

      Thank you so much, it surely will be our time soon. Amen

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  8. JemimaApril 19, 2013 at 1:15 PM

    aww babe, i really feel you, i know it hurts and its okay to have a good cry, really it is ..oya take a hug, and then do what makes you happy, if you don't do retail therapy like some people i know, then you must join our own team, there is nothing, cakes, chocolates or Ice cream cannot fix... just ask Toin...

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    1. sykikApril 19, 2013 at 5:47 PM

      Chocolates sure can work miracles..thank you. I just need to stop the super hero woman and let the tears out. I can't even explain to Hubby how I feel, he knows something is up and has been asking since last Saturday but where do I start the story from ...eish....I wishbone thing good can just happen to make me smile and forget for a second all worries.

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  9. UgochiApril 20, 2013 at 5:01 PM

    My friend, I am sorry about this but happy you know that your promotion comes from God. It is always darkest before dawn so just hold on, you morning is almost here.
    Sending you Big Bear Hugs, love.

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  10. AnonymousApril 21, 2013 at 2:53 PM

    I've missed a bit.... Sigh... it is well with you Sykik. You will rejoice soon. As for my promise, I'm ashamed of myself. My only excuse is lack of time as I've been carrying it around with me for months now. Like I said, I'm ashamed of myself.

    You will rejoice soon Sykik. I feel it. You will rejoice soon.

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    1. sykikApril 22, 2013 at 4:09 PM

      Lol...at this rate the book should have born another book sef.no wahala, I understand.

      Thanks for the prayers and welcome back.

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  11. Molara BrownApril 22, 2013 at 12:18 AM

    It is well and please let the tears flow, you shall feel relieved...God knows best.

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  12. jhazmynApril 22, 2013 at 11:09 AM

    Self pity? Heck no pls, Like others have said, there's therapy in tears. Plus, when we get to that place where we just break down, that to me is the best place to pour our hearts and angst on the one who does best wit it....Baba God.

    Hmm, aunty flo sha, she can be a diva like that. I keep giving her the side eye every time she shows up when unwanted...lol.

    I know ur much better now, and I'm sorry I didn't see this on time. Keep rockin (hugs)

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    1. sykikApril 22, 2013 at 4:15 PM

      Thanks dear, I am much better. I guess this monthly visit by Aunty Flo and the promotion thingy got me real bad. Thank you so much for the encouragement.

      I should stop feeling sorry for myself jare....God has so much in store for me. All i need is to hold on to him.

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    2. UnknownApril 24, 2013 at 9:22 AM

      I have missed you Sykik and I said, no matter how busy, let me find time and visit. You have all the raw materials for a miracle, so dance and sing in the midst of your tears because your faith will make your morning come. *Hugs, hugs my dear*

      As for weight matters, abeg, just blank. I have come to a place in my life where NOBODY defines me by my weight. The people close to me know that once they start talking weight, I totally blank out the person. Whether lepa or orobo, be comfortable with you, as long as it's a healthy lepa/orobo.

      You are in a good place dearie. Just watch out.

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    3. SykikMay 3, 2013 at 2:25 PM

      thanks so much, abi its staying healthy that matters and we all can't be the same size jare.

      hugs

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  13. SpynaijaApril 25, 2013 at 10:35 PM

    Huge hugs my darling Sykik...there is always one thing or the other that we struggle with or wish for God to do for us...but may God answer our individual prayers and keep us happy...

    keep happy

    Kisses xxx

    Ps : ignore nosy monkeys always..
    ..


    www.spynaija.blogspot.com

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    1. SykikMay 3, 2013 at 2:27 PM

      thanks love, we can't have it all abi. I just need to shake off the sorry feeling and look at the blue skies

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  14. sugarspringApril 26, 2013 at 10:16 PM

    sykik love, oya clean ur face jare and run into the arms of your father. he'll never turn you away but just believe something ehn...as long as God is on his throne, and as long as His word never fails, then you just need to believe that all things work together for good for those who believe in him and who have been called according to his purpose.
    i love you...but God loves you more.
    muah!! be good
    and tanx fr checking up on me..i guess we all have our days..come and collect bear hug and feel fine.#smile

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    1. SykikMay 3, 2013 at 2:28 PM

      I feel all warm inside with your comment. Thank you babe.

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  15. @ilolaMay 1, 2013 at 1:53 PM

    Hi Sykik. I see ur last blog post was April 12. Are you one of the disappearing bloggers? I have come back o, so you people should come back too, and let's make blogsville interesting once again.

    Now, I remember why I wasn't following you. How do you get to visit my blog when you are not following me, and I am not on your blogroll. I mean how do you even know when I put up a new post? Cos I know drop comments on my blog sometimes.

    Niways, I am now following you, so you'll be seeing my green light. Lol. Enjoy

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    1. SykikMay 3, 2013 at 2:32 PM

      lol....my darling. I know all the blogs i get all my energy from and your is one of them. i leave comments sef. I also tag you in some of my post, are we not the association of natural hair carriers. lol

      I have added you to the blog roll. I am still learning the ropes in this blogville and so far I haven't stepped on toes or been called out in a fight.

      BTW, maybe, I should get into a blog fight too...how do i do that..PS...i am a size 0 oh...so no bone breaking...lol

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  16. PriscyMay 6, 2013 at 10:25 AM

    sykik dear! what else can I say? everything is said so what I will add is to tell you that its well and things will surely get better.

    Your promotion is on the way and God will make your joy full by giving you a reason to have a double testimony.

    (((hugs))

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