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November 22, 2012

WARRIS THIS ?

I have a married male friend who’s a Nigerian born American – Papa DJ.  He’s married well over 30yrs with three children, to an American woman whom he professes his pure unabated love for at every opportunity he gets. Papa DJ’s wife is very accommodating and has hosted us during our numerous visits to their home in the States. Their love for each other is not in doubt and I have seen several public display of affection between them sef.
Sometimes last year, he asked me to help deliver some items to a female friend, -LFA in Lagos, whom he met during his visit to Nigeria in the year 2010. LFA is a forty year old divorced mother of three children. He also asked that I stay friends with LFA because she is in need of friends. I conceded to his request and dragged Hubby to visit her early this year and I call her from time to time till Papa DJ’s visit to Nigeria in March.  LFA stays in a two bed apartment somewhere on the Lagos mainland.
Papa DJ visited Nigeria in March this year with over 6 boxes of clothing, toys and gift items for LFA and her kids. A week after his arrival, he requested that Hubby drops him off at LFA’s place as he was going to spend some days with LFA. I became suspicious of their relationship and jokingly asked which room he was going to be staying in LFA’s place since there where only two rooms (one room for the kids and one room for LFA). His response confirmed my fears that LFA is Papa DJ’s girlfriend.  
As a proper Lagos babe, LFA milked him of every dollar he came to Nigeria with and he left promising to send LFA a SUV automobile. In fact, if you see him around this woman, he’s like a jelly; he behaves like a child in love. He has refused to heed caution and break off the illicit relationship with LFA.
He had reason to return to Nigeria last week for a burial ceremony of a relation who stayed with him in the USA until his death and this necessitated his wife to come with him to Nigeria (her first visit). Can you believe Papa DJ packed about two boxes for LFA and requested that I help drop it off . He told his wife that the items belonged to me….like what the f$ck and who does sh#t like this. (Pardon my French) *the devil is a liar, sister sykik shall not use swear word* I told him I didn’t find it funny, all this while, we were conversing in Yoruba because Papa DJ’s wife mustn’t know what is going on. I grudging collected the items from him and promised to send the items to LFA the next morning.  Sykik say the truth and let the devil be ashamed oh, ok...….he gave me one perfume *covers face in shame*
LFA attended the burial ceremony this past weekend and Papa DJ had cause to introduce LFA to his wife at the event. I was upset and wondered why she came to the burial.  
Papa DJ’s wife is like a mum to me. Adultery is a sin, my faith and beliefs detest it. I am pained that something like this is going on and I can’t do anything about it except pray.  

43 comments:

  1. See eh, Sykik, I promise you that you will not kill me with laughter o. Hmm this kind comment pass my mouth o. Where is the perfume? send it to me quick quick, considering that I am not apart of the biznez. Maybe you should kindly make yourself unavailable for PapaDJ. Become invisible like air. I take off abeg...

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    1. Eya, abeg,abeg, laughter is good for the soul. Let me not give you the perfume so that i won't rope you into the biznez. Abi, you want to become accomplice ni

      It's how to make myself unavailable I need to plan oh. Papa DJ always spends some days with us when he comes to Naija.

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  2. Eya, we can share the perfume biko. I truly don't understand this en. Since he knows your stance already, i guess you can stay just stay away like Eya said. It's heartbreaking to know such a thing is going on under your nose and you can't do anything about it. Hopefully, his eyes would soon clear. I just hope it's not too late

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    1. Sharing the perfume is going to make you an accomplice abi na "accessory" to the story.*keeping straight face*

      I pray his eyes clear soon because I am very uncomfortable with the situation

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    2. OK, but I've never heard of perfume sharing before. Do we break the bottle?

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    3. @ Eya, just google perfume sharing using blogger. Google has the answer.

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  3. FINALLY!!! This is where you are. When you leave comments on my blog, ur name isn't linked to this place. All I see is your email address and I've been wondering whether you blog or not. I came here through someone else's blog. Not sure whose now and that is the end of Solomon Grundy :)

    You collected perfume Sister Sykik. Choooiiii. It's not good. I shan't lie to you. *whispering* what perfume was it? Lol... But seriously, you need to talk to papa DJ and pray for him as well if there's space and don't aid and abet again. That is all.

    Mmmmwah!!

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    1. *whispering back* it's deep red by hugo boss..shey you see how cheap i can get.

      *clearing throat* I have talked to Papa DJ oh, he's in his sixties sef. I will continue to pray.

      Thanks for searching and searching till you found me. come here for a #big bear hug.

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    2. I can't breeeathe...It's too tiiiiight!!! Lol...

      Xxx

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    3. you this woman, the hug was for you to smell the perfume on my body nau.... see as you fall my hand.
      * pulling ya leg*

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  4. una no sure say na charm this man dey so? na so my mind dey me o. please talk to him, show your displeasure and continue to pray for him as well k? Best wishes with that.

    btw, make we share the perfume naa... you know say sharing na caring abi? I go de wait make you send am down make I also use some ok? na baba God go bless you even as you wan share, LoL

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    1. My Dear, Hubby believes Papa DJ don chop "vegetable". I am almost convinced too because the things he's done for this lady in less than two years ehn... he never buy me one pair of shoe since I have known him... but this lady don collect land sef.

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    2. Choi Priscy, Me, I will not call you an accomplice. I was first to ask sha.

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    3. @ Eya, lol..don't worry Priscy told me in secret, she doesn't wantthe perfume again sef.

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  5. Hmmm.....so when he is away for many months, who 'oils' her engine?....e don chop 'toto water'..please pardon my french also you hear? :D

    Profess undying love?...my sistah, i get wary of such people, because it's as if they are trying to compensate for something!

    So where the perfume nau? i can help you 'keep' it sha..ahaha.

    It seems your hands are tied in this matter oo, simply siddon they look....because if you put mouth, the table will be turned against you. Like you said, Pray for him, so that the scales will fall from his eyes.

    Have a blessed weekend.

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    1. lol...She be lagos babe. The oiling obviously will be done by other mugus like Papa DJ.

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    2. @Simply Mee, I repeat! I asked first. It's just one bottle of perfume.

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  6. i think u have to remove urself somehow from this situation...cuz in as much as u are the middle man u are implicitly approving...

    i'll advice u tell papa u cant be his middle man anymore..if it causes fight...so be it o

    hmm this cant be easy...chei

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    1. You just nailed it for me. I need to stop being the "middle man" . I will definitely put my feet down and not collect anything for her from him again.

      Thank you.

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    2. I can help u "hold the perfume" till u remove ya self from the matter, I promise not to smell it sef.

      Talk to Papa DJ sha, honestly. You are roped in already.

      Fest time, I shall always be back :)

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    3. *clapping* welcome, welcome. please come back oh. Lemme tinks abourrit, are you sure you won't smell it.

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  7. It's possible papa DJ has eaten "vegetable" like your hubby said, so the only and right thing to do,is to continue praying for him and stop being the middle man. As for the perfume,you know there's love in sharing oo.lol

    I guess this is my first time here or maybe not

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    1. I definitely will stop the middle man business. I feel so bad,I yam ashamed of myself.

      Thanks for stopping by.

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  8. I advice you distance yourself from all this
    Especially if the wife is as nice as you said

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  9. Hmm, sis, you need to prayerfully/tactfully disentangle yaself from this situation before dem name you an accomplice to crime o. It's heartbreaking when a man cheats on his wife like this. It does not alwayz end well.

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    1. My mind is made up oh. I don't want to put my hands behind my back and explain what i don't know.

      Thanks for the advice

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  10. Lol at people angling the perfume.

    Girl, I don't know oh. As some have said - it might be best to prayerfully detangle yourself from the matter and pray for him also. I feel for his wife. Wives really do need to cover their husbands in prayer. Too many wicked souls out there.

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  11. lol...at the perfume .

    How are you doing? Wives really need to pray well well.

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  12. Well, others have said it finish. Me, I no even want the perfume from you sef, LOL...

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  13. I will ask Blogger "how to spray perfume on blogpost".

    I have to say thank you to everyone for telling it as it is.

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    1. choi, anyway Google and blogger have all the answers you are looking for.

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  14. I will only honestly ask you to stop being the middle-party between Papa DJ and LFA because when katakata burst, everybody will turn around to blame you, that you had known everything between the two all along. Then, it will amount that you have only been aiding the affair. Be cautious, sis.

    http://josephomotayo.blogspot.com/2012/11/defining-sex.html

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  15. In situations like this,i just say may God have mercy.Sometimes what we consider perfect isn't perfect at all,it's flawed but in a concealed way.

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    1. a 9ja great man...um..i no understand this english way u just write o...wat is perfect in this situation...
      pls come and explain ya self

      :D

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  16. @aloted.... You are trying to get another poem abi...lol...
    @9ja great,yeah, you are right, sometimes aren't perfect at all. It can just be "packaging".

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    1. ah no o! lol

      truly didn't understand

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  17. *sigh*.. i'll say not to encourage baba dj by delivering his messages to the lady and if you speak to him and he won't listen, let him find someone else to do his dirty dishes.... poor mama dj. life eh?

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    1. My dear, I have resigned my middle man job oh. I told him "mbanu", I can't allow perfume come and spray me to hell.

      Thanks, babe.

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  18. Oshey! papa Dj is a Player player someboRRy! Aha waRRapin ni?! The guy is too Sleek for School biko.. lmao! heheh I definitely need him as a mentor :) xx Blessings!

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