I have a married male friend who’s a Nigerian born American – Papa DJ. He’s married well over 30yrs with three children, to an American woman whom he professes his pure unabated love for at every opportunity he gets. Papa DJ’s wife is very accommodating and has hosted us during our numerous visits to their home in the States. Their love for each other is not in doubt and I have seen several public display of affection between them sef.
Sometimes last year, he asked me to help deliver some items to a female friend, -LFA in Lagos, whom he met during his visit to Nigeria in the year 2010. LFA is a forty year old divorced mother of three children. He also asked that I stay friends with LFA because she is in need of friends. I conceded to his request and dragged Hubby to visit her early this year and I call her from time to time till Papa DJ’s visit to Nigeria in March. LFA stays in a two bed apartment somewhere on the Lagos mainland.
Papa DJ visited Nigeria in March this year with over 6 boxes of clothing, toys and gift items for LFA and her kids. A week after his arrival, he requested that Hubby drops him off at LFA’s place as he was going to spend some days with LFA. I became suspicious of their relationship and jokingly asked which room he was going to be staying in LFA’s place since there where only two rooms (one room for the kids and one room for LFA). His response confirmed my fears that LFA is Papa DJ’s girlfriend.
As a proper Lagos babe, LFA milked him of every dollar he came to Nigeria with and he left promising to send LFA a SUV automobile. In fact, if you see him around this woman, he’s like a jelly; he behaves like a child in love. He has refused to heed caution and break off the illicit relationship with LFA.
He had reason to return to Nigeria last week for a burial ceremony of a relation who stayed with him in the USA until his death and this necessitated his wife to come with him to Nigeria (her first visit). Can you believe Papa DJ packed about two boxes for LFA and requested that I help drop it off . He told his wife that the items belonged to me….like what the f$ck and who does sh#t like this. (Pardon my French) *the devil is a liar, sister sykik shall not use swear word* I told him I didn’t find it funny, all this while, we were conversing in Yoruba because Papa DJ’s wife mustn’t know what is going on. I grudging collected the items from him and promised to send the items to LFA the next morning. Sykik say the truth and let the devil be ashamed oh, ok...….he gave me one perfume *covers face in shame*
LFA attended the burial ceremony this past weekend and Papa DJ had cause to introduce LFA to his wife at the event. I was upset and wondered why she came to the burial.
Papa DJ’s wife is like a mum to me. Adultery is a sin, my faith and beliefs detest it. I am pained that something like this is going on and I can’t do anything about it except pray.