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May 15, 2014

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It can be knee crumbling
It can be excruciating, it’s beyond words
It can be heart racing, it’s beyond formula 1
It can be nerve wrecking, arthritis doesn’t hold an ace to it
I am numb
I am speechless
I am in a spin
I am in pain

I am grateful for all the prayers, support and encouraging words I received after my last post. I can’t thank you enough. I can’t begin to mention names but you all know yourselves, I am here today because you prayed. All I ask is that you remember my family in your prayers; I am holding God to his words....

Isaiah 43:2-4
“When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze.  For I am the LORD your God, The Holy One of Israel, your Saviour; I have given Egypt as your ransom, Cush and Seba in your place. 4"Since you are precious in My sight, Since you are honored and I love you, I will give other men in your place and other peoples in exchange for your life.…”

Deut 31: 6
“Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you."

On to other matters,

My darlings, in the midst of my own issues, only me waka go toilet *in mama Peace voice*, I walked into the bathroom of my office and met three ladies (one of them was heavily pregnant) in the middle of a conversation. I went into one of the cubicles to mind my business and couldn’t help but listen to their conversation.

Voice 1: I can’t trust any man, not on my life

Voice 2: I have been married for 6 years and truth be told, I don’t trust myself talkless of any man.......all men are cheats, the rule in my house is “don’t be caught”. I have told my husband to play safe because if I catch STD ehn....I will show him

Voice 3 (the pregnant mama): abeg, my sisters, I trust my female friends more than my husband sef. No man should be trusted. Don’t mind that Ifeoma girl, I pity her, 10 years going no child and she’s still singing “I love my husband", he can’t cheat on me”, leave her alone......na only her know God abi.....

Voice 1: Ifeoma’s eyes will soon clear, when the man carry one small boy come house, she will know. How can a woman be all trusting in this age and time ....no child she’s still singing "my husband loves me", "he can’t cheat on me".....she be world class mumu

Voice 2: true talk, the man most likely will have a child outside oh....this men, they can’t be trusted, 10 years and she believes her husband doesn’t have a child out of wedlock...mba....the man must be a smooth player...

Voice 3: to imagine, she has a joint account with the man...kai....she be real mumu....I am tired of telling her to stop singing “My husband can’t cheat on me”, no man is faithful, she needs to open her eyes and see men for who they really are....., in this Nigeria, that men will do anything for an heir

At this point, I was teary....I didn’t want to listen anymore, I don’t know Ifeoma but I know Ifeoma’s pain. I know what courage Ifeoma has to believe in God and trust that her husband won’t cheat on her in his bid to have a child.

Why do some women believe that “men can never be faithful” is this statement true, Are some of us living in fool’s paradise? ....... I am surrounded by faithful men, I grew up knowing faithful men who have stayed faithful for decades, yes, I can say so because I know so and I know some unfaithful men too, yeah........, but, is that enough to clothe all men with the garment of unfaithfulness

30 comments:

  1. People will always talk. Good to know you're holding up really well. I miss you plenty much sha *kisses*

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    1. aaaawww....thank you babe....kissing you right back

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  2. So nice to hear from you again :-). People can always and will always say what they want to say and judge others sometimes it is hurtful. Keep a level eye on Jesus, their story is not your story, neither is their experience yours.

    May God hear your prayers and ours for your family situation.

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    1. Thank you for this comment. It's painful to hear married women castigate others for trusting....everyone isn't the same and it's wrong to assume that all men cheat.

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  3. The LORD is your strength sistah, keep the fire of faith burning because HE is always faithful.

    Don't let such talks weigh you down my friend, to each his own and every mallam to his kettle!

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    1. lol @ every mallam to his kettle....madam, I have moved on jare....thank you.

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  4. I used to be in the "all men are cheats" school of thought, till the eyes of my understanding were open. Not all men would cheat, and i refuse to use my mouth to speak what category my husband would fall under. I know men who do not cheat.

    It is well with you whatever you're going through. May God's grace see you through.

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    1. I know men who don't cheat too. I wonder how anyone can use one "cloak" to cover all men and also try to forcefully push their opinion on others.

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  5. Its really good to hear from you again. Please don't be discouraged, God is in control. And for those tataafos, they are just bitter, i don't know why someone will choose to use panadol for another person's headache.

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    1. na serious panadol my sister....

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  6. It's great to have you back dearest Sykik. You are in my prayers and just to encourage you that God is right there with you in the midst of it all (Isaiah 43:2).. Lots of love xxxx
    As for the all men are cheats - that's a definite untruth. Some people actually unfortunately do believe that because that's all they've known all their lives. However, there are many men who are faithful to their vows it's not about what happens in other people's relationship but what you desire and pray for in yours. God will keep you and your man faithful to each other in Jesus name

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    1. I love the last line of your comment. It's definitely not about other people's relationship..

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  7. God's word never fails,He is with you and yours.
    Through it all,it is well with your soul Sykik,yes it is.
    I've been listening to bethel music-it is well with my soul and truly,its well.try to check for it.
    *Love

    I too refuse to believe that all men cheat,there are those that do not.i dare to dream of my man loving God enough not to stray and I know God will give me even more than that. Every mallam to him kettle,

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    1. Be it unto you according to your faith.....you definitely will attract what you profess. You will have a husband who will stay faithful...AMEN

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  8. Happy to have you back, dear sis. That's really a sure sign for me that things are getting better as they sure will.

    As per men and unfaithfulness...Na only one man's head bald for Ado wey dem label all Ado men bald-headed...

    Hugs,

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    1. my dear, things can only get better.

      lol @ "na only one man's head bald for Ado wey dem label all Ado men bald-headed"...:)

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  9. I don't agree all men cheat like those women think. Sometimes what we say and believe is what we get.

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  10. Some women have a mediocre way of thinking and they expect everyone to be like them. They live to expect the worst and are okay with average.

    I believe there are faithful men and it is wrong for the women to poke fun at their 'friend' because of her faith and especially at a time she's going through challenges.
    Most likely they are silently jealous of what they see is a good relationship between Ifeoma and her husband and their only reaction is bad-mouthing.

    Na dem sabi.

    I pray God gives you and your family His grace which is sufficient enough to brave through challenges.

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    1. I never thought of it as jealousy....Ifeoma may have a good relationship with her husband for her to have kept insisting on her husband's faithfulness. Women have plenty issues o jare

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  11. That people still talk this way, and hold engage in such gossips baffles me. Maybe they are just jealous of Ifeoma, and they are talking through their own spectacles.

    I will keep praying for you. Please, remain strong.

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    1. I think it may be jealousy jare. Thanks for the prayers

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  12. Sykik dear, I can't tell you how many times I have commented on your blog posts in my mind, lol. I am glad that the mental comments have translated into actual ones, lol. Missed reading your posts. I have had so much happening in my corner, but all good.
    To the post at hand. My dearest sister, when it comes to talks about marital faithfulness or unfaithfulness, I have learned to hold on to what God's word say and confess same for my marriage/relationship. One thing I know for sure is that any man can be tempted to be unfaithful, but there are men who have learned to hold on to God to overcome that temptation. Of course lots of faithful men abound-do not be deceived by popular media and lots of happy marital relationships abound where the woman has not yet had children after many years and the man did not philander. Without sounding too preachy, the devil uses his human agents to popularize the notion that no man can remain faithful to his wife for life- that as FALSE a notion as prophet Elijah's faulty thinking that he was the only one of Gods prophets who had not bowed to baal. God quickly debunked that myth for him. I don't even stay in an environment where women start discussing how bad husbands or men are. I confess differently and I have a different experience.
    I will read your previous post to see what happened, but may the Lord's mercies and grace rest on you, and yours. Check this post which I put up on Facebook about cheating today: https://www.facebook.com/unyimeivy.king/posts/10202998340212265?comment_id=10203009061680295&offset=0&total_comments=17&notif_t=feed_comment

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    1. Thank you ma'am ...... Confession is key .....I have learnt to prophecy what I want into my life.....God never made a faulty product, therefore he can't have made man to be unfaithful....God himself is a faithful God and we are created in his image

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  13. Thank you ma'am ...... Confession is key .....I have learnt to prophecy what I want into my life.....God never made a faulty product, therefore he can't have made man to be unfaithful....God himself is a faithful God and we are created in his image.

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    1. "God never made a faulty product, therefore he can't have made man to be unfaithful....God himself is a faithful God and we are created in his image"... I LOVE that comment. Thanks for my new prayer reference in praying for my husband and other men. xx

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  14. Blessings....

    There are faithful men however they seem so far and few between because the sins of those that who are busy whoring around, disrespecting their bodies and the bodies of other women stains them.

    Sadly not all women will bare children, sadly not all men will father children, this is a reality. We assume all women and men are capable of having children, all think they can until they can't. This is a conversation potential couples need to talk about, these questions needs to be addressed along with other expectations in living together, running a household and practiced spirituality. Men and women don't have these discussions and these are the things that are paramount to their life together, to the sustainability and longevity of the relationship.

    Lets get real, lets go there and have some REAL conversations and asks the QUESTIONS (Do you want children? Can you have children? Are you medically show you can produce/give birth or are you assuming? If we have child/children how will we raise them? What religion? What are you expectation of a wife/husband? How will the finances handled? What are you sexual proclivities?-Yes i said it-trust this is a big one, How do you expect to be treated? etc.,) and be willing to listen, pay attention, truly listen to the to what is being said-the answers NOT what you want or desire to hear and have the courage to make the necessary decisions it will take for you to get what you want out of the life you were given.

    Its important we understand our deal breakers before we walk blindly down the isle in wedded bliss only to end up in hells coven with no door of escape.

    People need to keep it real, find out who you are with, what they think about, how they think, how they see and view the world, that is what the dating/courting process is about. You close your eyes to the truth and you will have to live with the reality of the choice you have made.

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    1. Thank you so much for you comment....most of us get wrapped up in the euphoria of the wedding and forget to plan for the marriage.....and the truth is there are faithful men and I am glad that most of the women who commented on this post believe this as well

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  15. There is nothing more conforting than God's odds and promises!

    I believe it is the grace of God a man needs not to cheat. The man has to truly know God. Yes a lot of men cheat, but my philosophy is this, I am not a statistic. Circumstances surrounding our courting and marriage and the foundation of our relationship gives me the added confidence.

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